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Monday, December 30, 2013

My New Year's Resolution for 2014.....

Is to NOT go on any diets or implement any rigorous workout routines.

Ahh....that feels so good to say out loud, or type, as the case may be. And for once, for the first time in like 20 years, I believe I will honor this resolution.

The diet commercials have already commenced, and I know millions of women, fueled by shame and guilt, will tromp slack-jawed into gyms and diet centers around the country in search of the perfect answer. They will get on treadmills and run, just like hamsters in a wheel, and feed the diet mentality that has this country in its grips. Most of these women (and men) will end up gaining more weight in the long run, thereby feeding the weight loss industry. It's a vicious cycle.

Been there, done that. I'm proud to say I've shed my hamster skin, and I will not be running aimlessly on my treadmill in the basement. Unless, of course, I feel like walking or running on the treadmill.

Personally, I feel I did well over the holidays. I honored my hunger and ate what I wanted, when I wanted with no urge to binge or purge at all...and I was surrounded by 25 of my in-laws! That's enough to make a girl eat everything in sight! I don't feel I've gained any weight this season, which is a far cry from last year at this time when I gained 7 pounds in one month. I'm in a much better place. I hope anyone with an ED who might be reading this is, too.

Please join me in resolving to not go on any diets, to just honor your hunger and engage only in those physical activities that feel good to you.

No more hamster behavior!


Happy New Year!!

Thursday, December 12, 2013

My Newest Heroine...



As a writer, I wish I could've written this. As a recovering disordered eater who's learning to embrace  intuitive eating, I wish I'd had this insight years ago. I'm grateful I know better now. When you know better, you do better. Thanks Jenn, who turned me on to the Huff Post article where I discovered this intelligent and talented young poet.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Quit Yer Yammerin'

"I really shouldn't eat these cookies."

"Oh my God, I've eaten way too much!"

"This is the worst time of year. All I do is sit around and eat! I should be out hiking!"

"A moment on the lips, forever on the hips."

"I'm not kidding, this January I'm going to start working out again."

These are just a few examples of things I've heard throughout the years during the holidays. And you know what? Listening to this kind of talk is a downer. Not only because I'm overweight and constantly battling my food demons, but also because this is the time of year when we're supposed to enjoy good food that we normally don't have around the house, when we're supposed to relax with family and friends, when we're supposed to be grateful for all we have in this life. 

I've come to learn that we say these things because we live in the cocoon of diet mentality (DM). We've been programmed to think of food as "bad" and restricting and working out as "good." I've been around so many women who feel the need to constantly comment on how little they "should" be eating and how much they "should" be going to the gym. Being around these people is a drag. Not that I blame them. They're just doing what we all do, and behaving the way many of us think we should behave. I count myself in this group even though I no longer say these things out loud or to other people. I used to consider myself the president of this group. 

Last December my biggest challenge was to not gain weight during the holidays (I won't keep you in suspense...I failed miserably and gained 7 pounds. You should've seen the look on my counselor's face when I weighed in at Weight Watchers in January. Not only had I disappointed myself, but also "Lynn" who had lost 20 pounds seven years ago and kept it off!). This holiday season my biggest challenge is to tune out the DM yammerers. They're everywhere, so it will be difficult; however, unlike last year, this time around my husband and girls know where I am with food and dieting. They know I'm getting help with these issues and they're on my side. I've talked to them about DM and I've pointed out when people are engaging in the behavior. Now when we're out in public somewhere, or with family, and someone jumps on the DM bandwagon, my daughters shoot me a look: Here we go again! They smile at me, and we enjoy a private "I get it" moment. 

I'm glad I'm in a different place this year. How wonderful it is NOT to be on WW and worrying about how many points are in my Christmas cookies. I'm going to enjoy the holidays and the food and my family and friends...even my in-laws! All 27 of them. (Yikes!!) This really "should" be the most wonderful time of the year, not a time when we worry constantly about what we're putting in our mouths, and how many miles we "should" be logging on the treadmill. So take it away, Andy Williams, remind us what this season "should" be about. :o)